Dear Harlem Diva,
Is chivalry sexist? I try to do things that I think a man will do for his woman, hold the door, take care of her, and do the things I think a man should do for his woman. She insists on being an "independent" woman, not needing man for anything. What does she need me for then?
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This is an excellent question. More and more women are striving for equality, and with that, they want to prove that they are on equal plane with men, with the ability to take care of their own needs without the help of men. This is perfectly OK,until you figure out that the way you've been raised, and your "masculine" values are becoming more and more useless when dealing with that particular woman. My advice to you would be to explain to that woman your values, tell her you respect hers, and try to reach a compromise. If she can't 'get it'....kick her to the curb. Problem solved!
What are your thoughts on this topic?
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CONFUSION!! thats the word that comes to mind. You offered good advise HarlemDiva but I think "kicking her to the curb" is inevitable. She just dont get it, and she is not by herself. Women's independence and equality have NOTHING to do with Chivalry. We know you can open your own door but whats wrong with being pampered. Heck we can buy own own gifts, cook our own dinner, but whats wrong with you woman showing some love from time to time. That the kinda woman a fight breaks out and she tells her man stand back I got this baby LOL
ReplyDeleteLOL....unfortunately this is the reason why man people are single currently. They just don't get that men and women are supposed to "compliment" each other. If a man/woman feels that you're need to be "independent" will outweigh your need to be with them....they will bounce and SHOULD bounce the second they realize that fact.
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